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Assessments by Kishor...
As A Man Thinketh" by James Allen Assessment The point I fully agree is "Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results." If we perform some actions with lust, hatred and delusion, can the results be good? No of course not. It brings bad results. Only actions performed with pure thoughts bring good results. For making other healthy and peaceful, first of all he/she has to be healthy and peaceful. Keeping one in peace and harmony, one has to keep his or her mind balance and peaceful. Every man and women should have some vision or goal of life. The vision or goal should be positive and healthy which will keep oneself and others happy, peaceful and prosperous. The author presents the reality of human nature. The performances of acts which are outcome of his/her thoughts. The author presents effects of thought giving example of garden. If we take care to grow good flowers, fruits or so on we have to nurture them, we have to give water time to time, remove stones and all the wrongs. Once we understand we are our own master of our mind and thoughts we then will carry out good actions with pure thoughts. If one posses doubts, frustration, annoyed sometimes, he/she has to learn how to overcome such situations concentrating his/her mind in good efforts. He/she should learn art of living from such persons who have been practicing such good things continuously. >From reading the book, I could realize that we need to develop positive thinking, should have good vision, should develop patient and should remove bad thoughts. To make other happy, first of all one should be happy. A weak man can't support other weak man. He/she has to be strong to support others. Similarly an unhappy man can't help others to be happy. He/she should be happy at first to make others happy. We all have to develop positive thinking to get good results and to be happy. Jonathan Livingston Seagull" by Richard Bach Assessment The most important point for me from the book is on page no. 41 and 62. Page 41 : Jonathan Seagull discovered that boredom and fear and anger are the reasons that a gull's life is so short, and with these gone from his thought, he lived a long fine life indeed. This part teaches a lot for us. Whenever we are planning to organize something, first of all we have to be confident on it. We should prevent that all results will be good. Likewise whenever we intend to learn something we should not be scared. When something goes wrong or not in favour of us, we should not be angry. Like in the book itself Jonathon seagull tried very hard to learn. He is very friendly to all. He teaches all the arts what he learned to others who wish to learn so. He used to teach to others gradually. Page 62 : Do you have any idea how many lives we must have gone through before we even got the first idea that there is more to life than eating, or fighting or power in the flock? A thousand lives, jon, ten thousand! And then another hundred again to get the idea that our purpose for living is to find that perfection and show it forth. The same rule holds for us now of course: we choose our next world through what we learn in this one. Learn nothing, and the next world is the same as this one, all the same limitations and lead weights to overcome. This is true, learning is a continuous process. More we learn, more we are closer to perfection. The book has been divided into three parts. In my understanding the first part tries to mention about learning process and follow up suggestions of instructors which are applicable to all of us. The author presents a story of seagull which reflects our live situation in some extend. We also intend to search new think for making our life more better and happier. Our life is not limited for taking food and clothing. We have to search for new innovation so that live becomes prosperous and healthy. In the story a seagull named Jonathan Livingston always contributes his hard effort for learning something new. He is very hard working and seems honest as well. The author is presenting the story interestingly collecting many photos of seagulls to make it understand easily. It seems to be a new approach for presenting effective leader's role giving examples of many action oriented photos. It tries to explain that all teaching should be undertaken gradually. It would be more interesting for reader if the reader places dialogue of seagulls so that many people learn it. We have to discover new ideas for better way of living. From this story I remember one saying that it is better to teach how to keep up with fishing rather than giving a single piece of fish to a poor. Part two The author is trying to explain for getting perfection of our doing. What we see sometime is only partial truth, to know things more deeper, we have to explore it from different prospects. Jonathan Seagull flew across different seashore to experience with new innovation and see truth from different points of view. In this regard, I remember a saying of my meditation teacher. According to him there are some blind men they are going through some jungle. There they met a big elephant. One touches leg, one touches tail, one touches front part of the elephant. Those who touches tail said an elephant is like a rope, one who touches leg says an elephant is like a pillar of a house and so on. What they explain is partially true. Like that what we think we are true may be only partially true. To know broader aspects of the truth we have to practice a lot. So to achieve our goal, we have to retain our good effort rather than leaving it away. Part three I learned from part three of the book is that. Good environment, good instructor and good concentration are needed to learn something new. To learn something new, we have to be ready to change our traditional thoughts. Leaders have to obey laws first and be an example of good follower of rules and regulations. Then their followers will follow his instructions. " Pulling your own Strings" I really feel very much benefited reading this wonderful book. All individuals with different responsibilities should have gone through or read this book. Dr Wayne W. Dyer presented such wonderful practical examples we become victimized in different circumstances. Personal expression 1. I am so much inspired by the things that the author mentioned in the book, if we had some unpleasant discussion or argument with any body, it will affect us long time. It usually happens to must of lay people I think. The author said that it was also a kind of victimization and I fully agree with him. I know many people in society that they are being unhappy remembering that their friends, neighbors and office colleagues treated them badly though they were not guilty. Even they have left the place they still feel worried about such treatment of them. People in our society also sometimes feel like that. I learned reading this book that it is also a kind of victimization and the persons are still controlling us if we remember such things and persons long time. We really have to forget the incidents immediately. 2. I feel so great to read some practical examples of people, who were victimized at the first time in their families, offices and other occasions. But those who are lucky people, were successful to overcome from victims. I am so glad some of them have in contact with the author and follow the author's suggestion. In due course they change their life happily. Eg. An executive man, Alex (Page no.175-176) and an old lady named Julia (page242). 3. I am so happy to learn that we have to develop feeling of cooperation
in an organization rather than competition. I used to hear such wonderful
idea from my respected teacher. It is now very clear for me through reading
this book. However; I feel so sad that in USA, people give more importance
to their work even than their personal important matters, family and health.
In due course; they are being far from their loved ones and children, in
return they get annoyed, If you are not the master of yourself then by this definition you are not free. You do not have to be overtly powerful and exert influence over others to be free, nor is it necessary to intimidate others, nor to try to bully people into submission in order to prove your own mastery. Notable remarks from the book: 1. We often have to remember that of the Ancient Philosopher Epictetus wrote: " No man is free who is not master of himself." 2. Self compassion: If you are victimized by somebody else earlier and the case was again victimizing you means he/she is still controlling you. 3. Every individual nature has its own beauty .and each mind has its own method -- A true man never acquires after rules. --- Had Emerson (Page 91) 4. The author mentions about the process of meditation, which allows one to relieve the tension, the stress anxieties of one's overworked mind, by simply making it relax and be silent. (Page 213) It is really important to follow and practice such kind of technique like meditation to calm down our mind and makes our body relaxed. The book has been divided into 10 chapters, which give us idea about victim and non-victim circumstances. The assessment of such chapters are as stated below: 1. Declaring yourself as non Victim Lesson learned from this chapter: The freest people in the world are those who have senses of inner peace about Themselves. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Six categories of victimizers 1.1. The family 1.2 Professional and authority figures: superior people victimize us when
we need them. Eg. i. Most patients find very difficult to meet their
doctors. 1.4. Bureaucracies: In most of countries I think bureaucracies' machinery
is a giant victimizer. 1.6.1. Our training: you are victimizing yourself if you are still doing
what you were once trained to do if you don't enjoy it any longer. If you
are forty years old and working as a lawyer or a mechanic just because some
seventeen year old decided that was what you should do, then you are a
victim of training that was originally supposed to give you the freedom of a
job option you didn't originally have. How often do you trust the judgment
of a seventeen year old in terms of how you ought to run your life? Well,
then why be stuck with your own seventeen year old decisions when you are no
longer seventeen? Be what you want for yourself today. Get new training if
you aren't happy with yourself and your work. If we use our imagination, we will find innumerable ways to victimize ourselves. But by applying our imagination in constructive ways, we can, by the same token, find the means to eliminate our victim status. 2. Operating from strength This chapter elaborates more about protecting from causes of victims. I am so impressed by the example of non smoker and can't stand smoke, muster up the courage to say something when other people's smoking bothers you. you don't have to be nasty; just speak from strength. " I will appreciate if you would not smoke right now." It will insist smokers to leave the place. It has been stated that nine times out of ten, smokers will respect the request. The author suggested us to learn to use our anger or hurt effectively, rather than letting them victimize you. (Page 49) When applying or being interviewed for a job, never let yourself say things like: I am really not sure if I could handle this." I have never had any training for this, but I think I could learn. " You can just as well say to yourself, and convey to the person to whom you are applying, that you can learn to do anything, because you have already tested yourself in so many different situations that you know you have the flexibility to handle the job. It is really true that we would be victimized if we place total reliance in someone else to control our life properly. If we seize or make our own opportunities rather than waiting for success to come along and go after your objectives without staking our personal emotions on the outcome, we would be on the non-victim bandwagon before you even recognize it. 3. Refusing to be seduced by what is over or cannot be changed From this chapter, I am influenced by the event of Joanne, who was always nervous and anxiety-prone, confided that she could not get through a day without feeling tense. She used to blame her parents for her unhappy childhood. They didn't allow her for any freedom, in return they constantly monitored her behavior. She charged her parents for her nervousness. She met the author and told him all her feelings. The author explained her about the truth. It is really very true that we have to forgive everybody who made something wrong to us in the past. If we are upset today by remembering all the mistakes and bad things done to us, then we are still controlling by them. 4. Avoiding the comparison trap Ralph Waldo's said in Self-Reliance " Whose would be a man, must be a non-conformist. He who would gather immortal palms must not be hindered by the name of goodness, but must explore if it were goodness. Nothing is at lasting sacred but the integrity of your own mind. The author gave a lot of examples of people taking precaution for not being victimized. She presented event of the Pancake lady, Sarah's experience in the grocery shop, John's experience in swimming pool. We could learn from the chapter that we have to be careful by ourselves for not being suffered from others. 5. Becoming quietly effective and not expecting "them" to understand It is very interesting to learn from this chapter that how our politeness protects us from being victimized. Hank accidentally bumped the door of a car next to him. The jumped out and shouted at him and became really angry with him. However Hank calm behavior changed his angriness. Because of his calmness the other driver happily tolerate the situation and ended on a handshake. Similarly, it is appreciable to follow the idea that we should have to behave normally or friendly to everyone like how we behave to our good friends. In the book page no. 118, the author gave a very good example. When a friend spilled a glass of milk on our table, we would say, "That is all right, let us help you cleaning it up." 6. Teaching others how you want to be treated We could learn from this chapter that how one's behavior could eliminate him or her for not being victimized. Like the example of Marie, who was often victimized from her husband's treatment. She succeeded to change her husband's behavior to treat her in a good manner. We could also learn lesson from this chapter that how should we act in our practical lives for not to be victimized. It is really true that whenever we go to shopping complex and other apartments, children have to use a bathroom. If the staff of the complex or apartment doesn't allow using their bathrooms, it could create a very big problem to each of us. The author gave a very inspiring example of a lady called Lois who directly talked to a bank manager and used his bathroom when a staff didn't give her permission to use the bank's common bathroom. Thus she shouldn't be victimized. We have to follow such examples to our lives as well. (Page no. 147). All examples mentioned in this chapter are very useful to follow in our daily lives. In addition to this we could also learn clearly from seventeen categories of common victimizers (page 151-154), which the author clearly mentioned in this chapter. It is also very interesting to read the strategies (non-victimizing ways of treating us) for teaching others how you want to be treated. Example: If someone doesn't follow your instruction seriously, give him or her deadline to complete it. The chapter also gives some good guidelines to reduce or eliminate complaining words instead to use polite and appreciable words. 7. Never place loyalty to institutions and things above loyalty to yourself I got a lot of opportunity to learn from this chapter that it gives us clear idea to be loyal to ourselves rather than any other things. I fully agree that loyalty is misuse when human beings are given less important to it than profits and so on. It is very important to make us happy in order to help others in our family and elsewhere. I am so surprised to learn from reading the book that executives in USA are very much loaded with tension and stress. Heart attacks, ulcers and hypertension are considered normal in the high-powered institutional leaves of business, where employees have very little time for their families and normally become heavy drinkers, smokers, pill-poppers, or insomniacs with no time left over for loving or making love. It all happens because there is very high feeling of competition, which makes one feel more superior to the others, but it keeps one always stressful in his or her job. I like the writer's view that there should have developed feeling of cooperation in any institutions rather than competition. In addition to this I feel so surprised to read that suicide rate among children between the ages of eight and twelve has risen four hundred percent since 1967 in USA. (Page173). It is happening because of strongly developing to get top grades and fulfill their parent's goals. Children should have taught on the value of human life so as to make them walk to the right path. It can be clearly seen that until and unless people are not aware with the precious human life, they give more preference to the physical benefits and satisfactions only. I think this is one of the most important chapters of this book a lot of examples are given in this chapter which is really very important to follow up for pulling our own strings and not to be victimized. If we seriously think of our life we could realize that it is short so we have to live our life happily rather than living in tension, frustration and over anxiety. 8. Distinguishing between judgments and reality It is very important to have right judgment for not being victimized I learned such a wonderful lesson from this chapter that people are often victimized due to their wrong judgment. It often happens when we talked to our family at house and to our colleagues and fellows in institutions. When a father speaks strong to a son and daughter for their betterment but sometime due to their wrong judgment it creates misunderstanding among them and they become victimized. Similarly in an institution, sometimes a right decision might hurt or victimize some fellows because of their wrong judgment. Sometimes we make our judgment that a person is bad just looking his/her appearance and behavior but in reality he/she is a good person. The author clearly mention about judgment, which keeps one victimized. He illustrated that I. Good vs. bad. Such as example of odor, some people may not like the smell but it doesn't mean the odor itself is bad. II. Right vs. wrong: Sometimes we make our judgment that this person is right and that person is wrong. But our judgment might not be true, this makes us unhappy and we become victimized. We sometimes take decision in favor of our good friends; the decision might not be right decision. It victimizes us. III. Beautiful Vs. Ugly: Some people have habit to say seeing the other people that they are ugly, fat, thin, black, white, tall and short. Unfortunately the judgment makes other unhappy. It victimizes them. Instead of thinking negatively we have to think positively that the habits and behaviors of people are good. It really makes us learn for not to victimize ourselves. 9. Being creatively alive in every situation Creativity helps any person live life happily. We can learn from this chapter that active persons are less victimized. I also believe that whenever we become active and contribute something for the betterment of our society, it will give us peace and harmony. I am very inspired by the following example of this chapter: The author explains an example of Julia of sixty-seven years old often became frustrated and depressed. She used to stay in bed half of a day. The author advised her to be engaged somewhere actively. He gave her some appropriate activities from the morning till the evening like walking around in the morning, playing with cats, joining to library, doing yoga, dances and writing poems or so on. It really helps her not being depressed and annoyed. She became free from depending on drugs, which she had relied upon almost three years. She learns such activities to make herself free from all victims, which she faced earlier. 10. Victim or victor? Your present victim-profile based on 100 typical situations I learned from this chapter that most of people caught in some types of victims as stated by the author in this chapter. All the examples are very common examples. I learned a lot about how could we learn not to be victimized and how we could we become victimized in different circumstances. We ordinary people are victimized in different circumstances in our lives, we even don't think how could we response such circumstances without any victims. Once we go through all the examples, they really provide us clear idea for responding non-victim way of behavior. Awaken The Giant Within Assessment The book takes us into a journey to learn the art of living our lives successfully. It guides us to understand how we live, happily and prosperously. It mentioned clearly most of the aspects, which we have to incorporate to make right decision, to react positively even in the undesired situations. I am so impressed to read many practical experiences of different well-known personalities who are the leading figures of the world such as experience of formal US president George Bush, of the author himself, Mr. Akio Morita (the co-founder of Sony Corporation) who made the most important decision even in the tough situation and made his company of the leading companies in the electronic industries, experience of Dwayne Chapman whose goal is not only to catch the felons, but also to help them make changes in their lives, experience of Peter Guber, the chairman of the board and CEO of Sony pictures Entertainment Inc. Peter became one of the most powerful and respected men in the motion picture industry. His contribution of making a film so called "Rain man" won an Oscar award. I am so delighted to learn ho Mother Teresa committed for contributing her services to poor women (see page 490) and many other persons. It specifically focuses on those aspects, which are really parts of our lives. It clearly stated successful entrepreneurs, who are able to fully utilize the opportunity they had for earning or increasing their wealth and so on. I feel so happy to read quotations of lord Buddha, and other renowned masters of the world while reading the book. It inspires me a lot. I would like to share my attentions on different pages while I am reading the book. I highlighted those page numbers and would like to share to others along with my short comments on them. Page-24 Raise your standards Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. History chronicles the inspiring examples of people like Leonarde da Vinci, Abraham Lincoln, Helen Keller, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther king, Jr.. Rosa Parks, Alber Einsteain, Cesar Chavez, Soichiro Hona, and manyh other who took the magnificently powerful step of raisin their standards. the same power that was available to them is available to you, if youhave the courage to claim it. Changing and organization, a company, a country - or a world-begins with the simple of changing yourself. Page 26 Physical Mastery One of every two Americans dies of coronary disease, one of three dies of cancer. To borrow a phrase from the seventeenth-century physician Thomas Moffett, we are " digging our graves with our teeth" as we cram our bodies with high-fat, nutritionally empty foods, poison our systems with cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs, and sit passively in front of our TV sets. It helps us to take control of our physical health so that we not only look good, but we feel good and know that we are in control of our life, in a body that radiates vitality and allows you to accomplish your outcomes. The book to lead us to wake up and take control of our life! Anthony Robbins, the nation's leader in the science of peak performance, shows us his most effective strategies and techniques for mastering our emotions, our body, our relationship, our finances, and our life. The acknowledged expert in the psychology of change, Anthony Robbins provides a step-by-step program teaching the fundamental lessons of self-mastery that will enable us to discover our true purpose take control of our life and harness the forces that shape our destiny. Page 182-183 How can I use this? Because of this, what will I be able to contribute to others? These questions are what created the difference in destinies: " Why me? rarely produces a positive result, while "How can I use this?" usually leads us in the direction of turning our difficulties into a driving force to make ourselves and the world better. Michell realized that being hurt, angry, and frustrated wouldn't change his life, so instead of looking at what he didn't have, he said to himself, "What do I still have? Who am I really? Am I really only my body, or am I something more? What am I capable of now, even more so than before?" After his airplane accident, while in the hospital and paralyzed from the waist down, he met an incredibly attractive woman, a nurse named Annie, with his entire face burned off his body paralyzed form the waist down, he had the audacity to ask. " How could I get a date with her?" His buddies said, " You are insane. You are deluding yourself." But a year and a half later, he and Annie were in a relationship, and today she's his wife. That is the beauty of asking and empowering questions, they bring us irreplaceable resources: answers and solutions. Page 184-185 Einstein said, "In day to day life time is relatively depending on how you occupy your mind." The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. - Albert Einstein Page 186 Ask the questions that will uplift your sprit and push you along the path of human excellence. There is a big difference between an affirmation and a question. When you say to yourself, "I am happy, I am happy, I am happy," this might cause you to feel happy if you produce enough emotional intensity, change your physiology and therefore your state. But in reality, you can make affirmations all the daylong and not really change how you feel. Page 188 The answers we receive depend upon the questions we're willing to ask. For example, if you are feeling really angry, and somebody says "What's great about this?" you may not be willing to respond. But if you value learning highly, you might be willing to answer your own questions of, "what can I learn from this situation? How can I use this situation?" Your desire for new distinctions will cause you to take the time to answer your questions, and in so doing, you will change your focus, your state, and the results you are getting. Page 190 They immediately started asking questions like "What should we sell off first? Who will tell the employees?" But I refused to accept defeat. I resolved that, whatever it took, I would find a way to keep my company going. I'm still in business today not because of the great advise I got from those around me, but because I asked a better question. " How can I turn this around?" Page 193 The problem-solving questions 1. What is great about this problem? 2. What is not perfect yet? 3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it? 4. What am I willing to no longer doing in order to make it the way I want it? 5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it? Page 195 The morning power questions (The questions designed to experience more happiness.) 1. What am I happy about in my life now? 2. What am I excited about in my life now? 3. What am I proud about in my life now? 4. What am I grateful about in my life now? 5. What am I enjoying most in my life right now? 6. What am I committed to in my life right now? 7. Who do I love? Who loves me? The evening power questions 1. What have I given today? 2. What did I learn today? 3. How has today added to the quality of my life or how can I use today a an investment in my future? Page 197 I started with what are you happy about? I know that sounds stupid and ridiculous and Pollyanna, but what are you really happy about right now if you wanted to be?" He (a friend of the author) said, " I am really happy about my wife because she is doing really well right now, and our relationship is very close." I asked him, "How does that make you feel when you think of how close you are with her?" He said, " It is one of the most incredible gifts in my life." I said, " She's a special lady, isn't she? He started focusing on her and feeling phenomenal. You might say that I was just distracting him. No, I was helping him to get into a better state, and in a better state, you can come up with better ways of dealing with challenges. First we had to break the pattern and put him in a positive emotional environment. I asked him what else he was happy about. He started talking about how he should be happy about how he'd just helped a writer to close his first book deal, and the writer was delighted. He told me that he should feel proud, but he didn't. So I asked him, "If you did feel proud, how his state began to change immediately. I said, "What are you proud of? He said, " I am really proud of my kids. They are such special people. They are not just successful in business; they really care about people. I am proud of whom they've become as men and women and that they're my children. They're part of my legacy." I said," Who does it make you feel to know that you've had that impact? Page 198 One of my (The author's) favorite people- and one of the most impassioned men I've ever met-is Leo Buscaglia, author of love and may other outstanding books in the area of human relations. One of the things that are great about Leo is his continued persistence in asking himself a question that his father instilled in him form the time he was a little boy. Each day at the dinner table, his father would ask, " Leo, what have you learned today? Leo had to have an answer, and a quality one. If he hadn't learned something really interesting in school that day, he would run and get the encyclopedia to study something that he could share. He says that to this day he won't go to bet until he's learned something new that's of value. As a result he's constantly stimulating his mind, and a great deal of his passion and love for learning has come from this question, asked repeatedly, begun decade ago. It is really inspiring example for all of us. Page - 209 Thus, it's important to realize that words shape our beliefs and impact our actions. Words are the fabric from which all questions are cut. As we noted in the last chapter, by changing one word in a question, we can instantly change the answer we'll get for the quality of our lives. The more I pursued an understanding of the impact of words, the more impressed I became with their power to sway human emotion, not only within myself, but within others as well. Page 212-213 You can use transformational vocabulary to help others If you begin to use it, immediately replace it with a more empowering word. Instead of "depressed" say, I am feeling little bit down." Say, I am getting better," or I am turning things around." He agreed to commit to this as an experiment, and you can guess what happened: One simple sift in his words shifted his pattern completely. He no longer worked himself up to the same level of pain, and as a result, he stayed in more resourceful states. Two year later when I told Jim that I was writing about his experience in this boo, he shared with me that he has not felt depressed one day since that time because he never uses hat words to describe his experience. Page 225 Words can produce illness, words can kill," Cousins told me. " Therefore, wise physicians are very careful about the way they communicate." That's one of the reasons why, in fortune management, our practice -management company, we work with a doctor not only in helping them to build their businesses, but also in teaching them how to enhance their emotional sensitivity to enable them to contribute more. If you are in a profession where you work with people, it's imperative that you understand the power of words to impact those around you. Yes! I fully agree with this. We always have to be very careful about the words while we are talking to others. Page 232-233 Life is a game Different people have different global metaphors. According to Donald Trump, life is a test. For some people life is a competition. That might be fun, but it could also mean that there are other people you have to beat, that there could be only one winter. For some people, life is a game. Mother Teresa's metaphor for life is that it's sacred. What if you believed life is sacred? I often heard people saying life as a drama. We all have born here to play different roles individually. We have to go through different situations; sometimes-unpleasant situation or sorrowful movements come whereas sometimes-joyful movements come. We have to learn about how to be balance in every situation. Page 249 The emotions you once through of as negative are merely a call to action. In fact, instead of calling them negative emotions, from now onward, let's call them action signals. Once you're familiar with each signal and its message, your emotions become not your enemy but your ally. They became your friend, your mentor, your coach, they guide you through life's most soaring highs and its most demoralizing lows. Learning to use these signals frees you form your fears and allows you to experience all the richness of which we humans are capable. Yes! I agree with this opinion. As we tend to use some good signal even to point out the weaknesses of others it really helps us for not making him or her angry. In one training program, I learned that we have to express very politely to point out other persons weaknesses as saying him/her the areas for his/her improvements. Or we could even express you are doing well; it will be more fruitful if you increase such of your effort more and more. Page-251-154 Six steps to emotional mastery I have found that whenever I feel a painful emotion, there are six steps I can take very quickly to break my limiting patterns, find the benefit of that emotion, and set myself up so that in the future I can get the lesson from the emotion and eliminate the pain more quickly. 1. Identify what you're really feeling 2. Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions knowing they support you. (You never want to make your emotions wrong. The idea that anything you feel is "wrong" is a great way to destroy honest communication with yourself as well as with others.) 3. Get curious about the message this emotion is offering you (Getting curious helps you master you emotion, solve the challenge, and prevent the same problem from occurring in the future.) 4. Get confident 5. Get certain you can handle this not only today, but in the future as well 6. Get excited, and take action Page 255-263 The ten action signals 1. Discomfort 2. Fear 3. Hurt 4. Anger 5. Frustration 6. Disappointment 7. Guilt 8. Inadequacy 9. Overload or overwhelm 10. Loneliness These are ten different emotions we tend to face in our daily lives. The author mentioned clearly how to cope with these situations and how we get victory over these emotions and get success to achieve our goal. The author also mentioned about ten emotions of power, which give helping hand to us for making our dealing very wonderful and the most successful. They melt our negative emotions, which come into our contacts time to time. The ten emotions of power 1. Love and warmth 2. Appreciation and gratitude 3. Curiosity 4. Excitement and passion 5. Determination 6. Flexibility (Choosing to be flexible is choosing to be happy.) 7. Confidence (In order to get yourself to do anything, it's imperative to exercise confidence rather that fear. The tragedy of many people's lives is that they avoid doing things because they are afraid; they even feel bad about things in advance. But remember the source of success for outstanding achievements often finds its origin in a set of nurtured beliefs for which that individual had no references! The ability to act on faith is what moves the human race forward.) 8. Cheerful (There is a big difference between being happy on the inside, and being outwardly cheerful.) 9. Vitality 10. Contribution Page 266 Cheerfulness: There is a big difference between being happy on the inside, and being outwardly cheerful. Page -267 Being cheerful means you're incredibly intelligent because you know that if you live life in a state of pleasure-one that's so intense that you transmit a sense of joy to those around you-you can have the impact to meet virtually and challenge that comes your way. Cultivate cheerfulness and you won't need so many of those "Painful" Action signals to get your attention! Page 268 Contribution Talks of contribution to others eg. of Jean Vajean: He was such a good man who wanted to give so much to others. Each day we should cultivate that sense of contribution by focusing not only on ourselves, but on others as well. Yes! I fully agree with the idea, once when we tend to contribute for the betterment of others, such idea leads us toward happiness and satisfaction. That satisfaction can't be achieved through amount of money. We have to cultivate in our mind the sense of contribution. I have a practical experience while I was working in our volunteer organization to support young student for enhancing their skill in traditional painting and speech development training. They learned such arts and accomplished the paintings for their livelihood. They are able to speak in public as well. It makes them to earn for their livelihood. They seem so happy and so do I. Page- 269-270 Every feeling that you have good or bad is based on your interpretation of what things mean. Painful emotions are our enemies. Page 273 We all have goals. The problem as I have stressed in virtually every chapter so far is that we are unconscious in our use of these resources. Our goals affect us, whatever they are. If we don't consciously plant the seeds we want in the gardens of our minds, we'll end up with weeds. Weeds are automatic; we don't have to work to get them. If we want to discover the unlimited possibilities within us, we must find a goal big enough and grand enough to challenge us to push beyond our limits and discover our true potential. Remember that your current conditions do not reflect your ultimate potential, but rather the size and quality of goals upon which you currently are focusing. We all must discover or create a magnificent obsession. Page 274 Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible- the foundation for all success in life. Page 282 It is very inspiring and interesting to learn about the author's experience and his real happiness being spent in Fiji and with Fijian people. It is a custom of the people in Fiji to make quests happy and share happiness to others. Page-284 One man whose life I believe represents the power of a compelling future to change one's abilities, and whose life also reminds us that not achieving our intended goal may actually cause us to achieve a greater one, is the late Michael Landon. Why was this man beloved by so many? He represented many the highest values within our culture: a strong sense of family, doing the right thing, consistency and integrity, and persistence in the face of adversity, along with a sense of deep caring and love. This man who brightened so many lives became a cultural hero. Page 288 " Climb high, climb far. Your goal the sky; your aim the star. Similar to your goal to reach to moon, at least you reach to star. Page -293-294 Steps for achieving Personal goal, career/business/economic goals, toys/adventure goals and contribution goals " Where there is no vision, the people perish ." proverbs Page- 310 Life is a balance. If we allow ourselves to become the kind of people who refuse to see the weeds that are taking root in our gardens, our delusions will destroy us. Equally destructive, however, is what happens to those people who, out of fear constantly imagine the garden of overgrown and choked with intractable weeds. The leader's path is one of balance. He notes the weeds with a smile upon his face, knowing that the weeds' visit to the garden is all but over, because he's spotted them, he can and will immediately act to remove them. Page 311 A mental diet is an opportunity to eliminate the negative and destructive patterns of thinking and feeling that inevitably come from living life in an emotionally reactionary and mentally undisciplined fashion. I committed myself to such a mental cleaning almost eight years ago, and found it to be a very profound and invaluable process. Page-313 Every great, successful person I know shares the capacity to remain centered, clear and powerful in the midst of emotional "storms". How do they accomplish this? Most of them have a fundamental rule: In life, never spend more than 10 percent of your time on the problem, and spend at least 90 percent on your time on the solution. Page 329 We all want to feel good, i.e. pleasure, and avoid felling bad, i.e. pain. But our life's experience has taught each of us a unique coding system for what equals pain and what equals pleasure. This can be found in the guidance system of our values. For example, one person may have learned to link pleasure to the idea of feeling secure, while someone else may have linked pain to the same idea because their family's obsession with security caused them never to experience a sense of freedom. Some people try to succeed; yet at the same time they avoid rejection at all costs. The values we select will shape every decision you make in our life. There are two types of values we will learn about in the next chapter: the emotional states of pleasure we're always trying to move toward- values like love, joy, compassion and excitement - and the emotional states of pain that we are trying to avoid or move away from - like humiliation, targets will determine the direction of our life. Five elements of the effective evaluation 1. Mental and emotional state 2. Questions we ask 3. Hierarchy of value 4. Beliefs 5. Reference experiences Personal remarks 1. Mental state: Our mental status is different with the sentence of another person. Mental state is so different as per the situation. When our mental state is full of fear we couldn't grasp what others are explaining to us. 2. Questions: create the initial form of our evaluations. We tend to think what happen to us? What does this situation mean? If it means pain how to avoid, eliminate or reduce it. 3. Values: Each of us throughout our lives has learned value to certain emotions more than others. We all want to feel good, pleasure and avoid feeling bad. The values we select will shape every decision we make in our life. 4. Beliefs: Our global beliefs give us a sense of certainty about how to feel and what to expect from ourselves form life and from people; our rules are the beliefs we have about what has happen for us to feel that our values have been met. Some people have some belief that if they pray god there problems overcome . There is belief that if we do good the result we get in return will be good. If parents are good, they never have conflict with their children. If we carry out any activities with calm and peaceful manner, we can successfully complete them. 5. Reference experiences: We have stored everything what we have ever experienced in our life. If we experienced some knowledge of practical skill, we tend to remember it for long time and we can evaluate such issue rightly. A person who have experienced to pass through a jungle in a safety way will be a right person to pass through a jungle. Therefore our good experiences refine our beliefs and values. Remarkable quotation of George Bernard Shaw " Men are wise in proportion, not to their experience, but to their capacity for experience." Lesson learned; Right evaluation makes positive change of human beings. One example of such right evaluation is of Dwayne Chapman who did great contribution to change bad behavior of over 360 arrests a year. Page 332 Dwayne Chapman: a deeply spiritual man, whose goal is not only to catch the felon, but also to help him make changes in his life. Where did this desire come? for? It came from his own pain. Page 339 The psychology of change The six master steps 1. Decide what you really want and what' preventing you from having it now. 2. Get leverage: Associate massive pain to not changing now and massive pleasure to the experience of changing now! 3. Interrupt the limiting pattern 4. Create a new, empowering alternative 5. Condition the new pattern until it's consistent 6. Test it! Real value of life should always be remembered. Lesson from 1. Ross Perot who set up a very successful Electronic Data System Corporation (EDS), 2. Maverick math teacher from whom students learn discipline, confidence, the importance of team, flexibility and the power of absolute determination. That made a very good future of students. So we need to remember always the real value of us and follow certain good discipline, confidence and be always hardworking. Page 354-355 People don't just pursue pleasure, but they clearly also move away from pain. It is very difficult believe human beings. As the author suffered being trusted in a person and the man became dishonest. Yes! It is very difficult to understand human being. I believe it so. Page 382 The solution is very simple. All we have to do to make our lives work is set up a system of evaluating that includes rules that are achievable that make it easy to feel good and hard to feel bad, that constantly pulls us in the direction we want to go. Certainly it's useful to have some rules that give us pain. We need to have limits, we need to have some kind of pressure that drives us. I can't have a glass, something with limits to contain the juice. When people are feeling good all the time, they tend to treat others better, and they tend to maximize they're potential as human beings. Once we design our values, we must decide what evidence we need to have before we give ourselves pleasure. We need to design rules that will move us in the direction of our values that will clearly be achievable, using criteria we can control personally so that we are ringing the bell instead of waiting for the outside world to do it. Based on these requirements, Laurie changed the order of some of her values and completely changed her rules for achieving them. Here are her new values and rules. It really helps us to set our priorities for different values. 1. Health 2. Security 3. Loving kindness 4. Learning opportunities 5. Achieving (Value of life) Page-384 Life will give you enough pain on your own if you don't follow through. You don't need to add to it by creating an intense set of rules that makes you feel lousy all the time. Page-403 It is so sad to know that Mr. Mique Davis, a good friend of the author became paralyzed from the neck down as he jumped off a bridge without realizing that the water was only about two feet deep. Mr. Dax another good friend of the author was trapped in a fire, had his entire body burned, and was blinded. Later, in spite of all these challenges, he became a practicing attorney. They begin to share from their heart that how great life is, how happy they are to be alive, how much they've been able to accomplish. Page-404 It is very sad to know that one of participants who attended the seminar of the author lost his life by two men who had just been released from the prison. However; the widow of the man was so brave she applied her good knowledge to look after her children in an easier manner. Page 414 " The best effect of fine persons is felt after we have left their presence." - Ralph Waldo Emerson It is really true. Page 442 Nervous system demands the use of two-thirds of your blood sugar, In modern industrialized society, people become less physically active. Only a few decades ago, most people accomplished their daily chores in a physical way. Today, though, we have designed active demands for our bodies to replace the inactivity that our day-to-day life no longer creates. This forced activity we call exercise. Unfortunately, many people with positive intentions, including skilled athletes, are becoming less healthy with exercise. Out of our drive to produce the greatest results in the shortest period of time most of us create an improper balance between health and fitness, and suffer the consequences. The solution we have is simple. Stu Mittlman's secret is that he understands that health and fitness must go together. According to Dr. Maffetone, Developing our aerobic system will not only make us a better athlete, but it will also burn off the extra fat from your hips, improve our immune system, give us more energy and keep us relatively injury-free. In other way, it's a way to build your total health and fitness through both the proper conditioning of our metabolism for aerobic and when appropriate, anaerobic training. Computing your ideal heart rate *180- your age = your ideal heart rate (the rate at which you can exercise aerobically before going anaerobic) * If you are recovering from a major illness or are on medication subtract an additional 10 points. * If you have not exercised before, or have an injury or are gearing down in your train, or if you often get colds or flu or have allergies, subtract 5 points. * If you have been exercising for up to two years without any real problems, and have not had colds or flu more than once or twice per year, keep your score the same. * If you have been exercising for more than two years without any problems, while making progress in competition without injury add 5 points. (Before beginning any program of physical exercise, consult your physician.) Page - 448 Exercise can become a positive addiction. Research has shown that if we exercise consistently for over twelve-month period of time, we will form this positive addiction for a lifetime. Even if we get off track for a period of time, we will always return to a consistent exercise regimen throughout our life. Page 451 - 453 (Chapter 21) Six key points that are valuable of any relationship: 1. If you don't know the values and rules of the people with whom you share a relationship, you should prepare for pain. People can love each other, but if for whatever reason they consistently break the rule of someone they care about, there are going to be upsets and stress in this relationship. 2. Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they are trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take. 3. Like anything else in life, in order for a relationship to be nurtured, there are certain things to look for and to look out for. There are certain warning signals within your relationship that can flag you that you need to tackle a problem immediately before it gets out of hand. According to Dr. Barbara DcAngelis, there are four pernicious phases that can kill a relationship: 3.1. Stage one, Resistance (Conflict, struggle) 3.2. Stage two, Resentment (dislike, hatred, anger) 3.3. Stage three, Rejection 3.4. Stage four, Repression (Domination, suppression, cruelty) We have to be very careful to make our friendly relationship with others. These are very practical, in our family and public relationship these often occurred both implicitly and explicitly. It is very essential to learn that the author also mention about solving the problems indicating that we have to clearly mention our rules or we can use transformational vocabulary. 4. Make your relationship one of the highest priorities in your life 5. Focus each day on making it better rather than focusing what might happen if it ended. 6. Each day re-associate to what you love about this person you are in a relationship with. Reinforce your feeling of connection and renew your feelings of intimacy and attraction. " In a full heart there is room for everything, and in an empty heart there is room for nothing." - Antonio Porchia Page 455-456 Money! It's one of the most emotionally charged issues of our lives. Most people are willing to give up things that are much more valuable than money in order to get more of it; they'll push themselves for beyond their past limitations, give up time with their family and friends, or even destroy their health. Money is a potent source associated to both pain and pleasure within our society. Many people make the mistake of thinking that all the challenges in their lives would dissipate if they just had enough money. Nothing could be further from the truth. Yes! It is true. I agree with the idea. Money will not make available all what we like to have so, money will make our lives sophisticated physically in some extend only. Page-465 True contribution makes life richer; so don't limit yourself to adding value strictly for personal gain. Page 478 Three time saving tips 1. The ability to distort time 2. A matter of importance 3. Save yourself years Page- 493 A terrific example of this is a homeless young man named T.J. He was addicted to cocaine, methadone, and amphetamines. The seminar participants of the author share some hour with him and were able to help him make huge shifts in his beliefs and assist him in developing strategies to support his new identity. Today, T.J. is not only off the street and off drugs, but he is also a major contributor to society. He is a fireman in Texas. I am very happy to learn such wonderful life story of the person. If people convert themselves from misbehavior, they would contribute more for the welfare of our society and culture. Page 507 I am very inspired with the author of his kindness of helping the hungry and homeless people. It really makes us feel happy from within our heart. My personal experience One day I was providing my volunteer work in one of our ritual feast, it was a day after a big dinner served to huge guests. I saw a very poor old man looking at a clay bowl, which was left a side in the wastage box. He was just taking some curd left in the bowl and tasting it. I felt at the time that I had to give some food for that old man so that he could enjoy it because it seemed that he is so hungry. As I noticed he liked curd, I went inside a room and got a big bowl feel with curd and I managed to offer him some food along with the curd bowl. He was so glad and enjoyed the food very much. I felt so peaceful to offer him the food. It is really true that whenever we offer from our kind heart to other poor or weaken people, it really makes us feel calm, peaceful and happiness internally. I often recall that day. Page-509 Live is a balance between giving and receiving, between taking care of yourself and taking care of others. Yes, give some of your time, capital and energy to those who truly need it- but also be willing to give to yourself. And do so with joy, not with guilt. Page-511 Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just being an excellent example of being human. Mr. Anthony Robins concluded the book in such a manner that every reader will express their willingness either to meet him or to correspond him once. He expressed that the truth is that in life, we never know what's going to happen next! In the next few moments something could happen that could change the entire direction. He expressed that to live life happily, we should live in an attitude to positive expectancy, knowing that everything that happens in our life benefits us in some way. It is really encouraged for me to learn that we are guided along a path of never-ending growth and learning, and with it the path of everlasting love. Mr. Robins Anthony well explains about life values and the most important phenomenon that we tend to achieve for succeeding walk of our lives. "Unconditional Life Discovering the Power to Fulfill Your Dreams" The author used to be very sensitive to use words when he was about to tell his patient what happened to him or her. He speaks one of his patients minor damage to heart when the patient had suffered from heart attack. (page 27) It can be assumed that the author learned these positive attitudes from his family. They (specially his mother) always told him about the episodes of Ramayana, which showed us the disciplines and ethnical practices to be followed either in houses or in the society. As having spiritual knowledge the author enables to treat patients calmly and make them to be happy and realize about the real conditions of life. There are very few doctors like him. In addition to this we could learn from the book that how we minimize our illusions practicing spiritual paths like meditation and so on. In due course; I would like to share some of the points I marked in the book which the author mentioned about the condition of patients, their mental stages, spiritual guidance like meditation, ideas from Gita, Ramayana (Episode of lord Rama). The author presented a story of a couple (the wife suffered from cancer). Both of them practice meditation for long time each day. The wife realized the impermanence nature of the body and phenomenon and she faced all her pain calmly. Page:29 Page: 31
Page: 40 Page: 51-52 Why did you have a heart attack? You really want to know? Yes, I do." I got a promotion. The company wants me to move to Cincinnati But my wife doesn't want to go. She has all her family here in Boston, and she doesn't want to go with me. That's why." The man said this completely calmly,
without any sign of anger. When Crichton went on to question the rest of the
ward, every other patient had a similar answer: Page: 63 Page: 69 It is entirely different actions of two grandfathers on a same person. So we tend to learn here that there are different natures in human beings, which was made as per their attitudes. Page 129 Although every doctor has seen such patients, "great healers" have proved to be too rare and too individual to study as a class. Therefore, we do not really know their secret. I believe that what makes such people extraordinary is not anything they do: it is something they are. Page: 134 Chinese poet Wu-Men Counsels: What the yogi proposes is that each of us should locate the level of pure joy that is behind the mirror. It cannot be expressed in words, because language is another image in the mind's mirror. The author suggests us to
follow the spiritual path to live life happily. It gives energy to tolerate
at the time of difficulties and even at the time of illness. It guides us to
see the real condition of life. Change Your Mind, Change Your Life This is one of the excellent books, I have ever read through. I am so inspired to learn the compassionate attitude of the authors to the patients and the other people who are really seeking to get some support from others. The authors have opened one center for the children who were facing catastrophic (tragic, disastrous) illnesses and the possibility of death. The center later on expanded its services to siblings and parents and after that to adults with catastrophic illnesses, to people wishing to heal their relationships, and even to those with AIDS. The center doesn't charge fee for direct services. The center is guided by 12 principles, which are very important for internal peace and harmony. Twelve principles of the center This book gives a lot of practical ideas to calm down when we feel
angry. Usually we feel angry when: I fully agree with the authors as they mentioned in the book about ideas, which are based on premise that we can change the angry, fearful, negative thought in our minds. The principles of Attitudinal healing from which these ideas are drawn, teach us that happiness is our natural state and that we can choose to have peace of mind as our only goal. To change our lives, we need only to change our minds. Instead of holding on to grievances (complains), blaming others, or condemning ourselves, we can choose to have a willingness to forgive, to let go of all such thoughts. Through that willingness to forgive we take an important step toward correcting our misperceptions and removing the obstacles to our experience of happiness and peace. We have to meet people at work, at house and in the society in each of these activities there is always the potential for conflict, anger, and resentment. Without thinking about it we often set up rules for communication with our loved ones that are entirely different from the rules we follow with the people outside our immediate families. It may be easy to forgive your child or partner, but you may not be as willing to forgive people with whom you work. We feel happy when something happens in favor of us and feel angry when something happens which we don't like. The book gives us to be balanced when something happens which we don't like. The author mentioned in the preface that this book gives the answers of all the following questions. Once we complete reading whole book we could realize these all by ourselves. Is it possible to live lives with same concern for others as we have for ourselves, and to be focused on giving rather than on getting? Is it really possible to live in a way that we no longer blame others or condemn ourselves for the things that seem to go wrong and cause us to lose our peace of mind? Can we fell peaceful inside no matter what is happening in the outside world? Can we learn to no longer be afraid of love and to learn how to forgive each other and ourselves? Is it really possible to let of our fear of death and the belief that death is the end of life? Can we learn to be more gentle, tender and kind to each other and ourselves? Can we let go of all fear and give unconditional love to all others, without exception? Is it possible to enjoy peace of mind even though we believe that life has been unkind and that there are many people who have hurt us? Can we feel peaceful inside no matter what is happening in the outside world? This books talks about our everyday problems of different field in law, in business and in education. This book elaborates most practically about unconditional love and forgiveness. This book is about learning to be spiritually fulfilled, finding harmony between body, mind, emotions and spirit, and a comfortable balance between inner and outer success. It is a book about retaining our minds; opening our hearts to intimacy and learning to listen to the inner guide that each of us has within our hearts. It is about trust, faith, and hope. And it is about finding purpose in our lives and making a positive difference in the world. After we read this book we would know a solution by changing our mind and changing our life whenever we face conflict. This book has been divided into three parts. Part 1 explains about topic change your mind and this part are divided into four chapters. Part II explains about changes your life and this part is divided into 10 different chapters. In addition to this part III consisted with Attitudinal healing and eighteen weekly lessons. Personally I am very benefited with the topics. It is so interesting to learn about different persons from hospitals, schools, law and forms and business. The experiences of doctors, patients, lawyers, teachers The authors summarized briefly about the main message at end of each chapter. It would be very worthy at least to look at the main summary when someone is busy. The authors gave affirmation of the main highlights of each chapter. I would like to request all of our friends who are interested in learning ideas on practical basis for changing our mind with changing our life at least to read affirmations of the book. The affirmations of different chapters are given in page no. 21, 55, 74, 94, 115, 135, 153, 171, 206, 224, 263 and 272. The authors presented very good quotations at the end of each chapter. The book is a very good lesson for us. When I was reading the book I have marked some ideas from different pages as below, which I feel important and worthwhile our friends, it might also be interesting to you all as well. Page: 11 Page: 13 Page: 16 Page: 20 Page: 28 Page: 45 -48Story of Cheryl Daniels Shohan, Meg Harmon who has faced death of their children and friend and learn lesson to share unconditional love to others. Page: 59-60 Our state of mind can play a prime role in protecting us or helping us recover from illnesses of this kind. Our bodies' immune systems know how to heal infections caused by most viruses and bacteria, and they will do this healing work automatically. Page: 70 Page: 90 Page: 100 Mother Teresa has said, " When you give the gift of love, there are no small or large gifts. All gifts of love are the same. Page: 101 Page: 104 Page: 120 Page: 122 Page: 124 Page: 168 Page: 184 Page: 211 Levi Stratuss & Co. is also a company practicing more caring ways of doing business. This is a company where every effort is made to respect and empower every employee and where everyone is an equal teacher-student, student teacher to each other. When I completed reading the book I would like to share some of my experiences of one evening and a story of my friend who had died in an accident. An event of the evening As the matter of fact, when she went back to her house she lost her way. She was asking people about her son's house. She even didn't know the names of the area where her son's house is situated. In due course, she met us and asked to help her. We first listen to her and stop a taxi and tried to find out several places as per her information but we could not find the place. We asked the old lady about her son. He works in one of motor workshops in the city. It was getting too late for all of us to attend the marriage dinner. At last we decided to take help of police from a local police station. We told the entire story to policemen. They said they would find out her from the motor workshop. We said her that we would come back to the police station after just attending the dinner program briefly. When we arrived the wedding it was almost very late. We just stayed there few minutes only and came back to the police station. Anyhow at last the police was succeeded to find out her son. When we arrived at the police station the son came there. Both the mother and the son were so happy to see each other. The son was too worried. He had also been looking for his mother. We all felt so happy that they met at last. We thanked the police. The old lady thanked us very much from her kind heart. It is so peaceful to help someone who is in trouble. Story number two I was so worried that I could not hear anything about my friend. I went to see his house and met his youngest brother. I was so much mourned to hear that it had been some weeks already of his demise. I was extremely sad and very much distressed to hear such the worst news. I used to recall all our joyful movements, which I spent with him. What can I do is to share my merits to him whenever I do some spiritual activities like meditation and so on. I often realize the teaching of lord Buddha that all raising ends in falling, all meeting ends in departing and all living end in dying. It is the nature of impermanence. I often recall the events I spent with other two friends whom I meet on my school vacations only. One friend studied together in my school and the other studied in a different school. Both of them lived together in a same community. We usually meet either in their community or in my house. Usually we discuss about our studies and exam. One day I went to the school in the morning. I didn't see my friend coming to the school on the day. I went to see him in his house. It was a very bad they that I had to hear that they were in a bicycle accident. Both of them were in a bicycle. The cycle heated to a very big stone on the highway. My school friend broke his arms in different parts. And another friend was so serious. Both of them were fainted. Few days letter my school met woke up. His eyes were full of tear. I asked him not to be worried. However; he told me that he saw a dream and in his dream the other friend was telling him that he would be no more alive. He requested my classmate to look after his house after he past away. He thought it was only a dream but unfortunately it became true. The other friend had already passed away. It made very much shocked to all my friends and me. He was so positive thinking and a kind-hearted person. I also learned the lesson that human life is so short. We have to do something good for other in this short period of life span. The Magic Of Thinking Big The Magic of thinking" is a very good book written by David J. Schwartz. This book really shows the path of succeeding human life going through right ways, thinking positive and believing to succeed, conquering victory over defeats and evil thoughts. The writer has expressed the magic of thinking big through 13 different chapters each chapter explaining on the succeeding things, building confidence destroying fear, thinking big, thinking creativity, assuring what we are, what we think we are, thinking right toward people, getting the action habit, using goals to help us grow and thinking how like a leader. I could have an opportunity to learn how a person has to be succeeded in his/her carrier. How he/she has to set goals? How he/she has to develop confidence in his/her personal personnel motive? Reading the book, it helps me to overcome some of my personal confusions. I learn from reading the book that we have to gain opportunity building confidence through our own skills and efforts. Following are some of the ideas from the book which I think useful and worthwhile to share to our friends and of-course to readers. Chapter 1 page 17 Page 34 - Page 39 Page 43 Page 51-52 Page 60 Page 75 Page 82 | |
